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It is amazing how simple the word “EMPATHY” is, and how commonly it is used but yet very powerful and therapeutic to the mind, soul and body.

Sometimes I look at empathy as a gift, but it’s learnable. This means every human is capable of possessing this gift since it is learnable. I call it a gift because it is a present that is soothing to the soul, it is given and it is received, it is given willingly and received gratefully. Most importantly it is given without the expectation of payment or reward. Knowing this few things now, does this make you think about EMPATHY differently? Oh Yes! it should.

EMPATHY! is a combination of both passion and compassion. So I define EMPATHY as the ability to understand and share the feelings of another and at the same time not lose yourself in the process. This means the ability to understand someone else’s feeling, share it with them but at the same time don’t trade your own feelings for theirs. We can only show empathy when we are at our best state, notice I didn’t say perfect state because there’s no such thing as perfect state. I said best state because your best state can only be defined by you. You create your best state not someone else. So you can still create and maintain your best state in the middle of chaos and uncertainty. I explained it further because I need you to understand it. When you trade your feeling to someone else simply because you want to understand and share theirs, you have automatically trade your best state or self. And when that happens, you can’t effectively give this gift called EMPATHY. You can share someone’s feeling, but don’t live there, don’t inherit it. Showing empathy to someone going through depression, doesn’t mean you have to feel depressed in order to understand how they feel, showing empathy to someone feeling unhappy, doesn’t mean you should inherit that unhappiness in order to share or understand their feelings “WHAT MAKES EMPATHY EFFECTIVE, IS THAT IT BRINGS HEALING TO BOTH SOULS, NOT HEALING TO ONE AND BURDEN TO ANOTHER”. If that happens, it is only a matter of time before the frustrations are shared between you too.

Empathy cures almost all mental retardation, —> Depression, Anxiety, Low self Esteem, Frustration etc… Even for those caused by chemical imbalance and nutritional deficiencies. Empathy is very powerful because it makes you not feel alone, it makes you feel loved, understood, valued and worthy. LOVE itself is therapeutic in nature, that’s why the Bible said; God Is Love! (1 John 4:8), and empathy consist of love. Again, Being mentally lonely is dangerous, and this can be treated and avoided by empathy. Empathy brings healing to both the giver and the receiver. But like I said earlier on this blog, when you feel burdened while showing empathy, or rather when you experience empathy as a burden, please stop and rethink it. When you feel you are losing your original self while showing empathy, when you feel like you are not only sharing feelings but you are inheriting or adopting those feelings, please you need to stop and rethink it. Empathy can only be effective when you are still in charge of your own feelings, not when you trade or lose them. When you trade your own feelings while showing empathy, you lose its power, and you can’t give what you lost, or don’t have anymore.

There’s beauty, love and liberty in empathy. I took time to explain what empathy is not, because many people have had ugly or burdensome experience in trying to be empathetic. I have experienced the same, I lost myself in the process, but thank God I was able to rethink it. It became unhealthy both for me and the other party, Something that was meant to bring healing, brought stress, burden and frustration. I don’t want this to be you, that’s why I took my time to share this in this blog post. Maybe by next week I will share more on what really is empathy and its advantages, since you now know what it is not.




All men are equally endowed with a mind. But not all are exploiting it the same way, so the results cannot be the same. —- E. W KENYON.

I want to borrow some few descriptions from the Bible; John 5: 1-5; “Now there is in Jerusalem by the Sheep Gate a pool, which is called in Hebrew Bethesda, having five porches. So sick people wait there for the pool to be stirred, then they can jump in to be healed. For an angel went down at a certain time into the pool and stirred up the water; then whoever stepped in first, after the stirring of the water, was made well of whatever disease he had”. (emphasis by the writer).

Great points to note from this verse of scripture; The pool of Bethesda has healing and cleansing power, but that power can only be activated when it’s stirred. It is amazing to note that; It is the same water, the same location, but powerless until it is stirred. Three significant things; 1. The pool( You/your mind), 2. The water (knowledge), 3. Location (your field/locality). You have to understand that although it’s the stirring that activates the power, all this three things listed above is also very important. If there’s no pool, there won’t be water, and of course there won’t be a place or a location, that means their is nothing for the angel to stir to activate power (results). As interesting as all this may sound, I don’t want you to miss the point. You or Your mind is the pool, and every pool needs water in it (knowledge), and a location (field/interest/base) in order for a stir to happen. The good stuff is coming continue reading.

Another point you need to note; Why does it have to be an angel that stirred the water? Why can’t someone else, anyone stir the water? Well; I will tell you why; An angel among many other things symbolizes love, truth, purity. The stir in this context means — MOTIVES, REASONS, WHYS, INTENTIONS… this means your motives, reasons, whys, to want to do anything must be based on love, truth, and service to humanity. This is why; Essek William Kenyon said; We are equally endowed with a mind (pool), but some people have less water, some; no water, others; Enough water (knowledge), Please when I say “knowledge” am not referring only to acquired knowledge, but also knowledge of self, knowledge of the power you posses as a Human (pool). Kenyon further said; “But not all are exploiting it in the same way” this means, because our level of water (knowledge) are not the same, we exploit it in different ways. Then he finally said; the results can not be the same. Which means there must be a result, which will be determined by the way we exploit the pool (mind), whether success or failure, both are results. I really hope you are grabbing a life changing wisdom here.. HERE IS THE SIMPLE FORMULA —- POOL (YOU/YOUR MIND) + WATER (KNOWLEDGE) + LOCATION (YOUR FIELD) + ANGEL (LOVE, TRUTH, SINCERITY.. OR IN ONE WORD VALUE) + THE STIR (YOUR MOTIVES, REASONS, WHYS) = POWER (SUCCESS,RESULTS etc). So; pool + water + location + angel + stir = Success/Results. Remember this formula, and you will never end up a failure in life.

Take another look at the first image, and then take a look at this second image, do you believe that something this beautiful (second image), could come from something so desolate (first image)? It’s all about the function of the mind (the stirring of the pool). Please note; the description the writer gave to both images are just emphasis to drive a point. Both images are not related, and both are beautiful piece of art.

Please never forget this formula; pool + water + location + angel + stir = Power, (You/your mind + knowledge + field/interest + value + motives/whys = Success/Results) write it on a piece of paper and place it where you can see it daily, or you can write it in your journal, and refer to it daily.

The great thing about this formula is, it works for anyone, anywhere, not-with-standing the country you reside in. As you have learned in this blog, that your location is not necessarily your physical address, it is your field of interest. Please remember these last words; Every elements or properties that make up this formula is already within you and around you. All you need is continues enhancement, and always remember to seek help when needed, and ask questions, don’t be ashamed to do so.. Thank you for taking your time to read this great piece, and I hope you caught something that will be of a value to you. I will appreciate your thoughts in the comment box, or any questions you may have, I will be more than happy to read them, and answer any questions the best way I can. In the meantime, have a productive week, stay safe, and REMEMBER; LOVE, SERVE AND INSPIRE!


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